This post is about friends and how they can be goood or bad in your battle to flatten your stomach and lose those unwanted pounds.
There are different levels of friends. There are the super close best friends you tell everything to. Then there are the friends you may go to dinner and a movie with and you share some general things with, and then there are those who are more acquaintances.
One thing that almost all these have in common is their great ability to want to see you fail. Not necessarily consciously. I know some of you will find this hard to believe. But, if you really want to test it out, go into work tomorrow and announce one of the following. You are going to lose weight, you are taking a trip to a certain destination, you are buying a new bigger house or you are going to start making money on the internet. Now, at first they will likely start out just gushing in their excitement for you. But then, slowly, they will start to insert little “buts” in their compliments. Little negatives meant to get you doubting.
Now, I like to believe in the best in people. In spite of the few lines you have just read, I truly do. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, people love to see you succeed, but only if it doesn’t mean you get too far ahead of them. If your coworkers are overweight, they like it that you are sharing that particular common problem with them. If you start truly losing that belly fat, then they become alone in their situation. Heaven help you if there are a couple of them, because then they get to join in there annoyance you are losing weight.
I remember being so disappointed when I came to work and announced to everyone I was going to lose weight. My best friend asked me how I planned to do it. Then, she proceeded to laugh that the method wouldn’t work. Now, this woman is in great shape. She takes great pride in her once or twice daily workouts, and it was deeply bothering her that I planned to do it without nearly as much work as she puts in. It was like it was minimizing all the work she does. She plain and simply told me it wouldn’t work. That, in spite of me showing her the science that backed it up. People believe what they believe and it’s hard to change those beliefs. That may explain why we have so many political and religious differences. Anyway, I digress. When I stated losing the weight, she still didn’t take my plan seriously.
To their credit, the other people who had laughed when I told them I would lose weight and flatten my stomach using this plan, did start being supportive and actually all wanted to hear more about it.
So, your friends are your friends, but sometimes it may appear they aren’t being great friends. Just remember, it has more to do with their own issues, then your friendship.
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